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Sunday, 15 July 2012

CONFIDENCE STEMS FROM OPTIMISM






Tired of thinking negative all the time? Tired of always being scared of the consequences? May be it is time to snap out of pessimism and reclaim your life


No one has ever profited from negative thinking. If you are a bright student and get bogged down unnecessarily by fears of failure, you may need to rethink the direction in which your life is heading. It might be symptomatic of a larger emotional problem like insecurity and self-hate. There is little to gain from being a negative nancy.

Negative thoughts distract you from your responsibilities and enervate you. Do not be tricked into considering your imagination a part of reality. And, if you have decided to turn a new leaf, here are some points you should pay attention to.

Shift focus: Every time you catch yourself being negative, immediately shift focus to something pleasant and positive.


Decide to be happy: Happiness is a state of mind. You have to decide to be happy. More importantly, create happiness and do not be paranoid about the fear of failure.

Revise your attitude and words: Instead of saying ‘This task is not meant for me,’ or ‘I am sure to flunk,’ try this – ‘What can I learn from this task?’ and ‘Maybe I have done better than I think.’


Surround yourself with positive people: During stressful times like declaration of exam results, go hang out with family members, friends or mentors who believe in you and who usually will oblige you with a pep talk. Avoid indulging in negative criticism of your life and do not let others de-motivate you.

Meditate: If your condition is chronic, then it is best you go join yoga or meditation classes just about now. Professional help will heal your mind and body and prevent exacerbation of the situation.
Be selective of music: Music affects your disposition to a large extent. Sad music will only make you feel more pathetic. Get rid of that depressing sappy collection and stock up on something interesting and upbeat.

Focus on someone else: Shift focus to something or someone else. When you are not working, try and do something for someone else every day. Show them you care and stop being self-obsessed.

Accept yourself: Most importantly, get real and accept yourself. Don’t abuse yourself by seeking perfection in everything you do. Be realistic. No one is perfect. There are things you are good at and things probably could do just fine. Furthermore, success depends on many a factor you don’t have control over. Therefore, accept failure and success as part of life.

If you have never quite been the topper in class and have similar issues, then resolve to work hard, give each exam your best shot. Don’t neglect your inert talents. You might find your niche elsewhere and not academics. Bottom of the matter is that not everyone excels at everything. Sometimes, great achievers are those who have gone off the beaten track. Be brave and life will be sunny.

SUCCESS MANTRA: PRIORITISE WORK AND THEN FOCUS




Are you overburdened with work? Do you take on more assignments than you can handle? Sometimes, in spite of being energetic and motivated, you might fail to meet deadlines and targets. Ironically, this could be due to a general lack of focus.

The fact of the matter is that you have too much on your plate and by trying to concentrate on all your projects you are attentive to none.

Focus is the key
Albert Einstein was a man who mastered the art of taking up one task at a time, focusing on it until it was achieved and shutting out everything else on his list and in life. The story goes that Einstein became so involved and focused while working on the theory of relativity that his marriage suffered and his hair turned grey almost overnight. He suspended all his engagements with various universities and institutes. This period between 1912-15, which he devoted to a single project, produced one of the most radical scientific revolutions in history – the theory of relativity.
Not all of us can be Einstein, especially in this day and age. But what Einstein proved, besides the theory of relativity, is that focused work on a single project results in higher productivity than handling a dozen assignments at the same time.

One at a time
Swami Vivekananda once said, “Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, live on that idea.”
These are times of insecurity and with so many things on mind, everyone believes in multi tasking to avoid complete failure. Instead, you should work consciously at maximising your chances of success.
So if your list is swarmed with “things to do” then the best way to de-clutter your senses is to prioritise your tasks. This will clear your mind and accelerate your progress.
What is important is that you are able to sift the most relevant and important projects from the mess of tasks you have piled up. Here is how you can get rid of pending work.
  • First, divide your tasks: Put them under professional, personal and extracurricular headers. Pick the top two from each and try and complete them in a week.
  • Prioritise important jobs: Under each heading, enlist the most crucial of assignments.
  • Cross out the irrelevant: Delete items from your list that are not going to help you achieve your goals.
  • Organise your obligations: Give yourself two to three weeks to get rid of pending assignments. Once you have these off your chest, the real work will await your undivided attention.
  • Avoid new undertakings: When you are done with these smaller nagging commitments you will be left with ample time for your own pet projects. Concentrate and try not to take on new ones. Postpone thoughts of fresh ventures till you have completed a substantial portion of work assigned.
After a few practice sessions, you will see how The Einstein Principle works. You will learn to be focused, disciplined and organised. Above all, you might learn how easy it is to accomplish big targets when you can effectively manage your distractions and worries – even if these are related to work. After all, if you are driven in life it is a pity to let yourself be bogged down needlessly.

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Wednesday, 20 June 2012

SOME PUBLIC SPEAKING SKILLS



King of bollywood, Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all, by saying, “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill, which is highly regarded. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. There are many more ingredients to it. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested, which marks the success of speech. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. So, do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly, most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact, necessary for making it memorable for audience. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience, invoke emotions, and even trigger reactions from them. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some, while it’s a challenge for others. While some are born with this trait, others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. Here are some pointers, which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking.
Essential Public Speaking Skills
Understand What You Want To Achieve 
Before you start working on your speech or presentation, it’s important to keep in mind the following:
Who? - Who here stands for audience. What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question, you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. If your audience consists of school students, your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well.  
What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this, like causes, effects, and remedies of air pollution.
Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners, you need to know why they should listen to you. You should communicate to your audience, why you are speaking on the topic, and why it’s important for them to listen.Your audience should understand, that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them.
How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. In this, the kind of language you will use will play an important role. Use language, which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. The next important step, you need to do is to plan a beginning, middle, and the end of the content. You should follow a logical pattern, whenever you are speaking on a topic. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects.
When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing, when delivering a speech. While giving a speech, take effective pauses to make sure, that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience. 
Vital Public Speaking Skills 
  • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech, it is important to research the topic well. Good speakers always research before conveying their message. 
  • When it comes to wording your message, less is always more. There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points.
  • Add facts, quotations, and statistics, to your speech. However, just don’t include them for the sake of using. They should effectively complement your ideas.
  • For your audience to grasp the idea easily, it’s a good idea to add humor, stories, which connect well to your core idea. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all.
  • Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. Same is the case with the closing words. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. So, while making a presentation, pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech.
  • While making a speech or presentation, it’s very important to connect with the audience. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. Your second step should be to interact with the audience. Ask questions to your audience, this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved.  
Unforgettable Delivery
You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable, if you follow these useful tips:
  • Understand the purpose of presentation.
  • Be precise and concise.
  • Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life.
  • Don't talk too fast, when delivering the speech. Pauses play an effective role. 
  • Use a variety of vocal pace, tone, voice, and volume. This will make your speech effective.
  • Don't stay stuck behind a podium. It’s essential to keep your body up-beat

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